There are many, many things to consider when you’re trying to find a partner, and this becomes only truer with age. Appearances begin to matter less as personality takes precedence. Redditor Inefficacious asked, “Men, what is a personality trait that immediately makes a woman interesting/desirable?” and the men of r/AskMen delivered.
For NickelFish, it’s all about knowing how to chill:
Being laid-back about the little stuff. My new wife doesn’t mind if I drive a different way home just because, is ok about when dinner comes out bad (hers or mine), doesn’t impulse buy us into debt, knows that sometimes I interrupt because I’d forget otherwise…
Sharing bevs is a very important trait to have in a partner:
I once ran out of money while drinking at a bar. She pours half her pint into my empty glass. “If I have beer, you have beer”
Everyone at uni fell in love within minutes of meeting her. She never took a boyfriend or gf afaik. Just a sound human being, with a wonderful outlook on life.
Oh and eye contact was her thing, if she was talking to you, you knew.
Stop playing hard to get!
To be honest, if you’re willing to put aside some time from your busy schedules for a quick coffee in between work or a chat from time to time – I’ll be floored. That’s more thought than anyone would be willing to give me in a whole day.
I’m a simple man, and cannot emphasis enough how emotionally draining it is to put up with playing hard-to-get. Please, if you’re interested – let us know.