Expect to be rejected sometimes.
Rejection is all a part of life’s roller coaster. Therefore, you need to be strong enough to be able not to make sweeping generalizations when you’re rejected. Moreover, rejection doesn’t always have to be about the big stuff, or not getting into the college of your dreams. It can be something as small as being turned down by a girl.
So, recently ten people were killed in a high school shooting in Texas, on Friday. Among the two teachers and eight students that were killed was a girl names Shana Fisher. Allegedly, the shooter, Dimitrios Pagourtzis had been harassing Shana for months, as stated in an interview by Shana’s mom. Dimitrios was very persistent in asking her daughter. And did so several times in spite of her daughter’s rejection.
Shana Fisher "had 4 months of problems from this boy," her mother, Sadie Rodriguez, wrote in a private message to the Los Angeles Times on Facebook. "He kept making advances on her and she repeatedly told him no." https://t.co/clHL0gO6zP
— Matt Pearce 🦅🇺🇸 (@mattdpearce) May 20, 2018
According to her mother, Fisher “embarrassed” him in front of the entire class a few days before the shooting incident. He intended on doing much more than that and brought explosives that malfunctioned on the site. Domitrious is currently under police custody.
NEW: The Santa Fe High School gunman killed a classmate, Shana Fisher, who had turned down his advances, her mother tells us. Shana finally stood up to him and embarrassed him in class, and "a week later he opens fire on everyone he didn't like." https://t.co/clHL0gO6zP
— Matt Pearce 🦅🇺🇸 (@mattdpearce) May 20, 2018
Gun control and school safety have been an ongoing debate since the several shooting incidences. The state general, instead of making guns less accessible suggested that there should be lesser doors in schools to keep the kids safe.
https://twitter.com/TomNamako/status/997557776850268162
Perhaps, it was time we instead taught our boys that girls don’t owe them anything. They owe them zilch. You can’t force yourself to like someone; therefore, if you’re rejected, there’s no need to make a big deal out of it. It’s always wise to just move the hell on! Twitter user @adigoesswimming has definitely had enough of women being torn down. Quoting Fisher’s mother, she started a thread on what she said to her nephew after he got rejected by a girl.
https://twitter.com/adigoesswimming/status/998227660437417985
Apparently, no one ever told her nephew that if a girl is not interested, you don’t keep pestering her life until she concedes. To be honest, if it’s not meant to be, it can never be.
https://twitter.com/leslietfj/status/998233082959482886
https://twitter.com/adigoesswimming/status/998234204151394306
But he has an aunt who can TEACH him. What a gift. And we should all downplay high school crushes, which leave such an imprint but are the product of very unformed ideas about character, romance, love, and life's possibilities as well as brains that aren't done growing.
— Linda Jordan (@ljordanplatt) May 20, 2018
Dealing with rejection is a part of growing up. In her opinion, a lot of kids aren’t learning this. There is a huge connection between domestic violence and mass shooting which is often ignored by the authorities.
https://twitter.com/adigoesswimming/status/998246066746249217
https://twitter.com/misstomrstomom/status/998237559837749254
https://twitter.com/adigoesswimming/status/998238197728579584
Some people think that this is because of the picture perfect relationships and romance that is shown in movies.
Good for you! People cling to some "romantic" notion that if you try and try that shows true love or some such nonsense. Blame hollywood.
— Abby Koch (@abbykochphd) May 20, 2018
https://twitter.com/adigoesswimming/status/998269568727609350
I don't know though, the thought of adults telling teenagers how to approach each other makes me uncomfortable. It seems a little overbearing.
— @[email protected] 🇵🇸 (@LouroAlfredo) May 20, 2018
And that kids should be able to figure this out on their own.
https://twitter.com/adigoesswimming/status/998269052538753025
https://twitter.com/Maro_Virino/status/998281418525442049
Our just-a-teenager really wishes we wouldn’t talk to him about safe sex stuff and consent because it’s embarrassing, but he’s getting the conversation anyway because he needs it. Too bad for him.
— You Wear Fine Things Well ⚖️♿️💛🐝 (@piratefoxy) May 20, 2018
Romeo and Juliet may have set the bar very high. But, no means no, and that’s something we need to teach the younger generations. Let us know what you think of this particular approach in the comments below.