At one point in everyone’s life, no matter how many times we’ve done it – we stop and wonder if we are bad in bed. We could be 21-years-old, 31-years-old, or even 41-years-old and married with kids – we still always want to perform the best we can for our partners and make sure it’s worth everyone’s while. There’s nothing worse than being bad in bed – except, maybe having chronic bad breath. While bad breath sucks, sometimes, you can’t fix it. The good news is that if you’re bad in bed, there is always room for improvement. If it makes you feel any better – the first time I had sex, I couldn’t get past the tip without screaming in pain (whatever, it happens). But, fast-forward to modern-day me – I’m pretty good in bed (if I do say so myself) and my boyfriend is happy as a clam. So – there is hope for everyone!
1. You’re thinking too much about it.
Sex is supposed to be relaxing and enjoyable for everyone involved. If you’re too “in your head,” chances are, you’re going to be tense and nervous the entire time – which, isn’t fun for you. Not every single time is going to be mind-blowing and you have to let loose and enjoy the ride (literally). Over-thinking will ruin the moment and put too much pressure on yourself.
2. You aren’t verbal about your needs or limits.
If you’re having sex with someone – you should trust them or feel comfortable enough with them to voice your needs or what you dislike. Never stay silent if someone is doing something you don’t like – if they’re too rough or too aggressive with you. Also, if you’re not satisfied or enjoying yourself – speak up, girl! Don’t fake it just to “get it over with,” make sure you’re getting yours, too.
3. Or, you’re too concerned with yourself.
Some people only care about getting off for them and not satisfying their partner – which is selfish and wrong. Sex is between two people – and if you’re only thinking about yourself, you should be using a dildo and not a real person.