When a girl sees her significant other checking out other women on social media, there are a few ways they can handle it. They can A) get over it and let it be because people are allowed to look at anyone they please and it’s not cheating; seeing as he chooses to date you. B) Cause a fight with their partner and get angry/jealous/crazy. Or, C) Take it to a wildly inappropriate level and involve other people.
Personally, I’m an A kind of girl, but I’ve been friends with many women over the years who count any form of “browsing” on social media as “cheating” and “lying,” though, personally, I’ll never understand it. If a guy is browsing through another woman’s social media, it’s one thing–but when they start talking to other women behind your back–that’s when there’s a problem.
The problem, however, is between you and your partner–not the other woman. Unfortunately, many women fail to realize this. The other woman is not to blame here (unless of course, they’re aware of your relationship and disrespecting it entirely). One Twitter user experienced some inappropriate backlash from a jealous girlfriend after she caught her boyfriend “creeping” on her Instagram profile.
21-year-old Tajea-Jasmine Walton from Stratford, Connecticut is a model who also likes to celebrate her culture and heritage through her Instagram posts. Her photos are absolutely stunning.
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During the last 6 months of 2017, I fell into a deep depression. I locked myself off from the world & convinced everyone that I was just "busy" but I was spending many nights crying, alone… hoping this dark cloud over me would go away. But here I am now! And I'm better. Happier than ever. 2018 looks so good on me. #shesbackbitches ????
Walton has over 1,000 followers on the app and told BuzzFeed she often receives DM’s from strangers, but, last week one caught her eye. It was from a random girl she had never met sending her some wildly inappropriate words because of her boyfriend.
According to the DM, this woman’s boyfriend was so obsessed with Walton that he was saving her Instagram photos onto his phone and even setting them as his background on his phone and computer. Of course, this would make any girl uncomfortable. But, it’s truly not Walton’s fault.
I didn’t respond. I honestly just read it and blocked them both. There wasn’t any reason to go back and forth. I have my own boyfriend, and at the end of the day, there’s nothing I could do about him being oddly obsessed with me.”
Clearly–Walton is more mature than any of the other parties in this situation. She shared it on Twitter and had some pretty supportive responses.
She didn't need that last message. She could have been more respectful without sounding pathetic.
— zola (@zola_cadence) April 4, 2018
I don't know who scarier the stalker or the girlfriend…
— A Pimp Named Slick Back (@LucianF3rb) April 4, 2018
Excuse me, talk to whom? pic.twitter.com/3f2ok41q4A
— ✨Black Scarlett✨ (@TorridMrs) April 4, 2018
So how did she conclude that YOU are the problem here? ???? pic.twitter.com/oEzm9tUuSD
— Vitamin J ???? (@_Golden_Bae_) April 4, 2018
What’s his @ everybody should blow up His notifications. How she mad her man obsessed with you?? pic.twitter.com/06sJGDll8w
— ????Black Bulma ???? (@ChildishLeebino) April 4, 2018
She really came to you and said please stop existing wtf lol
— cami (@cammoneyyyy) April 4, 2018
Walton also told BuzzFeed she shared the story so women can realize that they’re worth more than this.
“What I want women to take from this is that…
1) You’re worth more than this.
2) The second you feel like you must attack another woman over a man, let him go.”
Preach, girl, preach.